Written by Radha Rani Bradley - Co-founder of Akhanda Yoga Australia
Learn to laugh at yourself.
Let’s face it, we aren’t perfect. Striving to achieve and behave in perfect ways, our vision of the most perfect us, leads us to being unhappy with ourselves.
Ahimsa or ‘non-harming’ starts at home. Having love for ourselves is something we are told we must do, and most of us claim to do it but if we were to listen in to anyone’s internal dialogue it would often be far from loving. We berate ourselves for our short comings and when we are swept away from our calm, reasonable selves by our emotions.
For example, when the 1 year old ignores your tenth “Don’t touch that’s dangerous” as she tries to jam her fingers into a power socket whilst flicking the switch on and off.
Someone takes the place in the supermarket car park that you have been waiting for for 25 minutes whilst your children are screaming their heads off in the car.
After any outburst (even if we have held it in) we can feel downcast, upset with ourselves for being less than the super-human being our egos aspire us to be.
Divinity lies not in imperfection or perfection but in loving awareness. So, be aware of who we are, all of it, the awful and the wonderful and heal through loving kindness directed at ourselves.
And how do we do this?
Put your hand up when you are wrong, admit it to yourself firstly and then your loved ones. Then have a good giggle at how ridiculous you are, how ridiculous we ALL are and let it go. If you have the ability to take a step back and have a good look at the situation as it truly is, it's much easier to get perspective on any situation. Once you've had a good laugh, you can start to bring forward love and forgiveness for yourself, which in turn, you are able to spread that love and joy beyond yourself.